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  • Being Independent: Relationships

    When we first fall in love with that special someone, or when we meet a friend for the first time, it is common for us to want to spend a significant amount of time together. In fact, we seem to feel better when we are with this person.

    This is the infatuation stage, and admittedly, it feels really good. But enduring relationships move past this stage and into a place of mutual respect and care. This will require each person to give the other space to be their own individuals.

    Why Individuality and Independence are Important in Relationships

    First, what does it really mean to be an independent individual? It means you know how to be your own person. It means while you make the effort to make your partner or friend happy, you also ensure that you continue to do the things you enjoy that bring you happiness.

    The following are just some of the reasons why there should always be independence in any relationship:

    Independence in Relationships Tip 1: Being Experienced as Clingy or Needy

    When you lack independence and don’t have a solid sense of yourself, you can come across as “clingy” or “needy”. If you want to be around your partner or friend 24/7 and they are wanting space, your neediness can become an energy expense to them.

    Tip 2: Mutual Growth

    When the two of you stay independent, you give each other the opportunity to grow as individuals, which can then lead to growth for both of you individually and for the relationship.

    Independence in Relationships Tip 3: Mutual Support

    There is often strength in being an independent person, and strong people can be counted on when it matters most. When you are both strong individuals, you can lend that support when the other needs it.

    Need Help Getting Your Independent Spirit Back?

    Most of us demanded our independence when we were in our teens and early 20s. But life happens, and we can often lose that independent spirit and lose our own identity.

    If you need some help reconnecting with yourself so that you may one day enjoy a beneficial partnership, please get in touch with us. We’d be more than happy to discuss how therapy  can help.

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