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    Hello, and Welcome!

    Finding a Winnipeg Sex Positive  That's Right for YOU

    If you are struggling to reach out, you are not alone. For many people, taking the step of reaching out for help feels vulnerable and scary. And it makes sense that you'd be nervous to open up to a person you've never met. Unfortunately, most of us were socialized into feeling even more vulnerability and shame when our struggles are related to sex, gender, and/or sexuality. Please know that we are so grateful you've stopped by to learn about our services.

    One thing that can really help with this fear is to find a sex positive therapist who is the right fit for you personally, and who specializes in this area. We realize this may seem obvious, especially since you're already here reading about sex positive therapy services. But, here's why we believe doing your research is important: a) We never assume we are the right fit for everyone, and b), many people struggle to get started with researching nearby supports.

    Here are some tips: Google phrases like "sex therapist near me", "sexual abuse counsellor Winnipeg," "sex addiction counsellor," or something similar.

    Perhaps you've found us through a third party such as Psychology Today or Theravive, in which case you already know that those are also great tools that can be super helpful.

    We would be so happy to work with you. However, we are so glad you're doing this research before you choose your Winnipeg sex positive therapist.

    What is Sex Positive Therapy?

    Human sexuality has traditionally been viewed overwhelmingly negative and hierarchical. Sex Positive Therapy seeks to change this by celebrating the wide array of sexual and gender expressions and identities, with strong emphasis on consent.

    To put it simply, Sex Positive Therapy takes a positive perspective on human sexualitysex, gender, and sexuality are celebrated for it's beautiful diversity.

    How does Sex Positive Therapy help?

    It helps couples with intimacy, sexual, relational, and communication struggles. This often includes conversations about distractions and stressors that stem from other sources: Work stress, starting a family, self esteem, physical and/or mental illness, and the overall business of life.

    Sex Positive Therapy also helps individuals who have experienced sexual injustices and traumas, such as:

    ◻️ Sexual abuse of any type

    ◻️ Non-consensual advancements

    ◻️ Disrespect for boundaries

    ◻️ Gender discrimination

    ◻️ Stigmatization for LGBTQIA2+ communities

    ◻️ Sexist gestures and gender stereotyping

    Would you benefit from Sex Positive Therapy?

    If you are looking for stigma-free and affirming Sex Positive Therapy, then you've come to the right place. We are here to be in your corner, without judgment.

    If any of the following sound like you...

    ◻️ You have experienced sexual abuse and would like to be free from the resulting traumatic impacts

    ◻️ You are feeling stuck in a sexless marriage or partnership

    ◻️ You and your partner have mismatched sexual desires

    ◻️ You want to spice up your love-life, but your partner isn’t interested

    ◻️ You are having lower than normal sexual desire

    ◻️ You are feeling emotionally disconnected

    ◻️ You are struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors such as sex and porn addiction

    ◻️ You have sexual fetishes that keep you from healthy sexual engagements

    ◻️ You don't identify with heteronormative-cisgender stereotypes

    ◻️ You are attracted to the same-sex but fear the possibility of relational fall-outs if you come out

    ◻️ You experience sexual shame and anxiety

    ... then Sex Positive Therapy may be what you've been looking for. As Sex Positive Therapists, the primary focus of our work is to help you reduce and eventually eliminate shame and confusion. Once shame is no longer running the show, you will have space to shift your focus on the issues that have kept you stuck for too long.

    Unmet needs that can lead to unwanted sexual behaviors

    If you are struggling with unwanted sexual engagements such sex or porn addiction, we will address the underlying causes and explore other ways to get your needs met so that you can once again enjoy sexual pleasure for the sake of the pleasure, rather than to cope with pain.

    There's nothing wrong with enjoying your sexuality and sexual pleasure, but sometimes what is normal, wonderful, and enjoyable can become addictive. This is the case with many things in life, such as: Work, drinking coffee, or just about anything else we enjoy. But sometimes, an otherwise good thing can become the way by which we numb ourselves from emotional, psychological, and even physical pain. When sex becomes an addiction, other issues may arise, such as broken relationships, problems with libido, financial problems, or even being late to work and missing other work-responsibilities.

    We also offer stigma-free, affirming counselling therapy for LGBTQIA2S+ individuals and couples.

    Finding an LGBTQIA2S+ Allied Counsellor in Winnipeg That's Right for YOU

    Stigma, in any form, is an impediment to the well-being of those who experience it. Given the stressors that LGBTQIA2S+ communities must confront, such as homophobia/monosexism/heterosexism, prejudice, coming out, and discrimination, finding a therapist who is LGBTQIA2S+ affirming is crucial to your personal well-being and growth.

    You've known for a little while that you'd like some help, but haven't been able to get yourself to reach out. For many people, reaching out for help feels quite scary and vulnerable. And it makes sense that you'd be nervous to open up to a person you've never met.

    Unfortunately, most of us were socialized into feeling even more vulnerability and shame when our struggles are related to sex, gender, and/or sexuality. Please know that we are so grateful you've stopped by to learn about our services.

    One thing that can really help with this vulnerability is to find an LGBTQIA2S+ allied counsellor who is the right fit for you personally, and who specializes in this area. We realize this may seem obvious, especially since you're already here reading about our services. But, here's why we believe doing your research is important: a) We never assume we are the right fit for everyone, and b), many people struggle to get started with researching nearby LGBTQIA2S+ supports.

    Here are some tips: Google phrases like "LGBTQ therapist near me", "sex positive therapist in Winnipeg," "gender identity counsellor in Winnipeg," or something similar.

    Perhaps you've found us through a third party such as Psychology Today or Theravive, in which case you already know that those are also great tools that can be super helpful.

    We would be so happy to work with you. However, we're so glad you're doing this research before you choose your Winnipeg counsellor.

    Stigma-Free Supports

    Do you live outside of the heteronormative-cisgender box? Could you use a safe space to process your feelings and assess your goals? Or maybe you’re seeking relationship counselling from someone who understands where you’re coming from.

    If you can relate to any of the above, then you’ve come to the right place. No judgments. No stigmas. Just strong support with open ears.

    The Source of Pain

    Living in a world that was built on strict views around sex, gender roles, and heteronormative-cisgender social constructs, has not been and continues to not be easy for folks in the LGBTQIA2S+ communities. Although the original source of distress for LGBTQIA2S+ folks would often be entirely unrelated to sexual orientation or gender identity, the pain of living in our social constructs very often gets sexuality and gender identities wrapped up in the pain. As a result, in addition to experiencing the normal human struggles such as depression, anxiety, addictions, struggles with self-esteem, relationships etc., LGBTQIA2S+ folks often need to live with the pain of being told that your sexuality and/or gender identity is somehow the reason for your struggles and pain. This kind of stigma denies you the right to struggle with common human struggles.

    Please know that you have the right to struggle without your struggles somehow being blamed on who you are—i.e. on your sexual orientation and/or gender identity.

    How Can LGBTQIA2S+ Allied Counselling Therapy Help

    At Empower Counselling Services Winnipeg we do not see sexual orientation and/or gender identity as a problem to be solved, but rather, as a reason to celebrate the many sexual orientations and/or gender identities and expressions. When our clients come to therapy for help with a specific issue, we do not assume that your problem is in any way related to your sexuality or gender identity. Our focus is to help with the issue(s) that YOU identify as bringing you to therapy.

    In the same way that we do not assume a straight and/or cisgender person is sick because they identify as straight or cisgender, we do not believe that folks who identify with any of the LGBTQIA2S+ letter identities are sick because of their orientation or identity.

    For example: If you come to therapy for help with addictions, mental health struggles, relationship problems, self-esteem or any other struggle, we will not assume that your struggle is somehow related to your gender identity or sexual orientation. We also won't assume they are not related. We will do our best to follow your lead.

    However, if you have experienced sexual or gender discrimination, we will do everything we can to help you heal from this injustice.

    What Brings LGBTQIA2S+ Folks to Therapy?

    The quick answer is, the same plethora of struggles humans struggle with, such as:

    ◻️ Self-esteem

    ◻️ Career struggles

    ◻️ Relationships

    ◻️ Addictions

    ◻️ Depression

    ◻️ Anxiety

    ◻️ Perfectionism

    ◻️ Other mental health struggles

    ◻️ Family issues

    However, due to a long history of patriarchy, capitalism, and strict heterosexual-cisgender social constructs, LGBTQIA2S+ folks often have to deal with additional struggles on top of the common human pains and struggles, such as:

    ◻️ Discrimination in the workplace

    ◻️ Sexual and gender discrimination

    ◻️ Discrimination from health care professionals

    ◻️ Religious abuse

    ◻️ Stereotypes on the news

    ◻️ Hetero-sexism

    ◻️ Mono-sexism

    ◻️ Discrimination of many types

    ◻️ Negative assumptions

    Next Steps

    As LGBTQIA2S+ affirming therapists, we are committed to helping clients of all genders, sexual identities, and expressions feel not only safe but truly respected and supported.

    If you’d like to explore stigma-free LGBTQIA2S+ allied therapy, we want you to know that we are here to help. Let's take the next step together.

    We would love to hear from you even if you’re not ready to make a commitment to an appointment. Feel free to call or email us today to request a FREE 15-minute phone or video consultation.

    141 Sherbrook Street
    Winnipeg, Manitoba R3C 2B5

    (431) 688-8103
    info@empoweryoutoday.ca