• 5 Warning Signs It’s Time to Try Couples Counselling

    When you first fell in love, you could never imagine that someday the sound of your partner chewing could make you want to scream. It’s inevitable that once we are out of our honeymoon phase and reality sets in, we realize that all relationships take work and compromise. But while some couples may hit bumps in the road every so often and navigate those bumps successfully, other couples find themselves in bigger trouble, with neither party knowing exactly how to fix things.

    If you are in a relationship that is no longer feeling healthy, here are 5 warning signs that it may be time to try couples counseling:

    1. There is No Longer Healthy Communication

    Once you have a communication breakdown, you are unable to rationally share thoughts, feelings, and concerns with each other. Beyond this, unhealthy communication tends to leave one or both partners feeling depressed, angry; and hopeless. Couples therapy can be very helpful to explore better communication skills.

    2. Trust Has Been Broken

    When there has been infidelity (or other issues that broke the trust), it is very difficult for the couple to rebuild trust and repair the damage. While there is no magic pill to recover from an affair, couples therapy can offer tools and strategies to rebuild trust.

    3. You’re More Like Roommates

    If you and your partner act more like roommates than romantic partners, this indicates a lack of intimacy and a potential need for professional help.

    4. One or Both of You Has Begun Acting Out

    You try to mask your real feelings for as long as possible, but then you start to act out the hurt and resentment you may be feeling. For instance, if your partner has been unfaithful and you have agreed to stay in the relationship and work things out. But over time you find yourself lashing out, acting in ways that are not normal to your true self, or even trying to make the partner believe you are having an affair so they will feel the same kind of hurt. This acting out is unhealthy for both people and is a BIG indicator you need to seek some help from a couples therapist.

    5. When the Only “Solution” Seems to be Separation/Divorce

    A break from negative energy can be very helpful to the relationship. But when a temporary break leads to more and more time away from home and one partner renting their own apartment, this indicates a need for couples counseling. Spending time away from home usually doesn’t lead to any real resolution, just more distance.

    If you and your partner are interested in exploring marriage counselling or couples counselling, please be in touch with me. I would be more than happy to discuss how I may be able to help.

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